05 March 2015
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From the College Dean - Student Formation
We are moving into the business end of the term in respect to exams and assignments. It is important that all young men are aware of what is due and when it is required to be handed in. It is important that assignments are printed at home and ready to be handed in at the start of the lesson as required by the Assignment and Non-Written Assessment Policy.
As parents we can assist our children by:
- Being aware of the requirements of the Assignment and Non-Written Assessment Policy in terms of assignment submission
- Helping them identify what and when their assessment is due
- Make sure they are meeting drafting dates
- Help them with a study and term planner
All students should be in a routine of regular study and revision for exams that are fast approaching. It would be a good time for social gatherings to be put on hold until all assessment is completed.
Helping Kids Deal with Rejection By Michael Grose
One of the keys to functioning socially and emotionally is the ability to deal with disappointment and rejection.
Most children experience some type of rejection from their peers throughout childhood. One study found that even popular children were rejected about one quarter of the time when they approached children in school.
Paradoxically, children's experience of rejection and disappointment at school is good for them, as long as it's balanced with successful experiences too. They learn that they can cope and solve problems in their own way and that bad experiences don't last forever.
They also learn that sadness and disappointment can be managed too, which is an important lesson to learn to take into adolescence and beyond, when life is full of ups and downs.
Helping Them Move On
Most children recover from such rejection. They move on and form constructive, worthwhile relationships but some children need help. They often take rejection personally, blaming themselves. As a parent it is useful to challenge children's unhelpful thinking and encourage them to look for new friendship opportunities. Parents can help children understand that rejection may happen for any number of reasons that are unrelated to them.
In the course of a school day children will meet with a number of challenges and even setbacks. They may struggle with some schoolwork. They may not do well in a test and they may not be picked for a game that they wanted to play. Children grow stronger when they overcome their difficulties. The challenge for parents is to build and maintain children's confidence levels to help them get through the rough times.
One way to help children deal with rejection and disappointment is to talk through problems or difficulties, recognising and accepting their feelings. Talk about various scenarios, discussing possible outcomes. The age of your child will determine the amount of detail. Keep things simple and avoid burdening a younger child with concepts he or she doesn't understand.
Your attitude as a parent can make a huge difference to how a child reacts. If you see rejection or disappointments as problems then your child will be hamstrung by this view. See them as challenges then your child, in all likelihood, will pick up your upbeat view and deal with disappointments easily. After all, confidence is catching!
To help children handle rejection and disappointment try the following four strategies:
- Model optimism. Watch how you present the world to children, as they will pick up your view.
- Tell children how you handle disappointment and rejection. Not only is it reassuring for children to know that their parents understand how they feel but they can learn a great deal by how their parents handle situations.
- Help children recognise times in the past when they bounced back from disappointment. Help them recognise those same strategies can be used again.
- Laugh together. Humour is a great coping mechanism. It helps put disappointment in perspective. It helps them understand that things will get better. They always do.
The stronger the wind the stronger the trees is the notion here. Supporting kids to handle life's hurdles helps them to develop a lasting sense of resilience, which is essential for good mental and emotional health.
In preparation for the final weeks of school and looking towards Term 2:
Term 2 Uniform - A reminder that all students are required to wear the College tie from the beginning of Term 2. Also all students in Years 10, 11 and 12 require long trousers and blazers. These are available now from the Uniform Shop.
Blazer - A reminder that all young men in Years 10, 11 and 12 will be required to wear long trousers and their blazers to and from school during Term 2 and 3. In preparation for this I ask that if dry cleaning of blazers is required, that this is done over the next couple of weeks for the commencement of Term 2
Communication – The Student Diary is a significant means of communication between staff and families. Please continue to use the Student Diary on a daily basis. If you have an urgent message that needs to be communicated to your son, please contact the Student Office and at an appropriate time during the day the message will be passed on to your son. If your son has an appointment during the day, please write a note in his diary so he can show his Group Tutor and his classroom teacher. This will ensure your son leaves class at the appropriate time to meet you at the Student Office to sign out.